Wanna know what dating a dancer, or wanting to date in the dance scene, is really like?
You’re checking in for tech, looking all sorts of ugly because it’s before noon, walking to your dressing roo- oh hAaaay, that one dance team with all the cuties I guess we’re sharing dressing rooms, hoLLer.
Just kidding. Don’t get distracted. Focus.
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You go to a competition to perform your heart out, to watch other awesome teams, and to check out the cuties on that one team – I mean, check out the new dance gear at that one vendor.
Who are we kidding…
Maybe you’ve just joined a new team, and though teamcest is ‘frowned upon,’ you just can not fight your attraction – the passion, the LUV for dance, the way she wears that flannel tied around her waist better than every other girl with a flannel around her waist. Mmph.
It’s not all smiles and hearts and rainbows though – we all can’t be Keone and Mari.
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Dating a dancer is hard work; you can get competitive, your schedules can conflict, and don’t forget that everyone knows everyone. Whether you’re thinking about dating a dancer, you’re currently dating a dancer, or you’ve dated a dancer, I think it’s safe to say that there are a few pros and cons.
THE PROS OF DATING A DANCER!
Same Dance Schedules = Same Free Time!
If you’ve ever dated a non-dancer, you’ll realize that you can only talk to him/her before or after practice because it’s too hectic during, right? So you can either text him/her before 7pm or after 2am, but news flash: some people actually sleep before midnight. Not dancers, though.
Dancers are up at random hours of the night; have you ever checked Facebook after a really long practice and noticed the people online are mostly dancers? Exactly. With schedules coinciding, you can hang out at with your dancer girlfriend or dancer boyfriend, in the wee hours of the night and eat together at 4am, something that I’m pretty sure is not a good idea for your health. But whatever. Dating a dancer will enable your late-night binges.
**TEAMCEST BONUS – YOU GET TO PRACTICE TOGETHER, WHICH EQUALS TIME TOGETHER!**
#NoNewFriends – The Same Social Circles Of Dancers
Let’s face it: dance teams take up so much of your time that your only other friends outside of your team are either your parents, your dog, or other dancers on other teams that you met that one time at that one party through that one friend and now you guys follow each other on Instagram and comment on each others’ photos saying, “LET’S HANG OUT SOON!” or “WERRRRRRRK” or “YASSSSSSS”
(See Related Article: Dancers on Instagram VS. Dancers In Real Life)
Because you guys have the same friends, it makes hanging out easier, and it makes group settings less awkward!
**TEAMCEST BONUS – YOU GUYS LITERALLY HAVE THE SAME FRIENDS BECAUSE YOUR ONLY FRIENDS ARE ON YOUR TEAM.**
You Share The Same Interest and Passion for Dance.
The love and passion for dance that dancers share is something indescribable, something that you can only feel personally. When you find a dancer who shares the same interest as you though, the same drive, the same commitment to dance, it feels fantastic.
Through this, you two can motivate each other to work harder and become better dancers, or push to reach whatever goals you have for your dance career. It’s a special bond.
Did Someone Say Collab? Making Choreography With Your Boyfriend/Girlfriend!
Appppppaaaarently dance couples just LOVE dancing together and collaborating.
I guess it’s cute.
On the real though, if you’re dating a dancer, that’s an automatic partner for any couples choreography, an automatic viewer/critic for any choreo that you want to present, and an automatic idea-bounce-off-er.
Always Having Something To Talk About
Do you fear long term commitments/relationships because you are nervous of running out of things to talk about later on in the relationship?
Fear not! You always have DANCE to talk about. From fangirling new videos to criticizing the placings at that one competition, you two will always have the DANCE WORLD to talk about. You’re welcome.
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**TEAMCEST BONUS – YOU CAN TALK ABOUT HOW YOU DID AT CASTING, HOW SHITTILY YOU’RE BLOCKED IN THAT ONE PIECE, OR HOW AWESOME IT WAS WINNING THAT ONE COMPETITION THAT ONE TIME.**
Did You See ____’s New Video OMG.
Going along with the comment earlier on same schedules, you’ll just be synced up in life, including new concept/workshop videos released.
You have some someone to watch videos with, and let me tell you, regular non-dancing people can only watch so many before they want to do something… more productive with their lives.
NOT DANCERS THOUGH.
The Pro You’ve Been Thinking About But Didn’t Think I’d Say But I’m Saying It…
“Dancers are generally better in bed since they have an idea of rhythm.”
(See Related Article: 12 Moments of Sexual Tension You Experience As A Dancer)
Someone told me that, I’m just quoting it.
Alright. Moving right along to..
THE NOT SO GOOD OF DATING A DANCER.
The Con That I Didn’t Even Think About But Someone Told Me This…
“We’re both tired as shit all the time. Tired = no sex.”
Don’t mess with my man,
Imma be the one to break it to ya.
Got my girls, got my man,
So find your own and leave mine alone~
Nivea and Jagged, you knew what was up #relevant.
Let’s face it, you scored a dancer. Good for you Glenn Coco, you go Glenn Coco.
However, that is not going to stop all the other thirsty bitches in the dance community from eyeing your significant other. You probably scored a hot commodity, and there will never be enough Gatorade to quench the thirst of the dance community.
You’ve been warned. Don’t get crazy.
#NoNewFriends (Part II) – Same. Social. Circles.
So like I said earlier, the community is small, you probably don’t have that many friends other than your teammates.
Because the community is so tight, if things get a little messy, don’t think that it’ll be a secret. Everything in the dance community spreads faster than something that… spreads fast – like seriously, kendamas came out and like the next week everyone has like 4 kendamas and ken dama-nate the attention span of dancers everywhere. Kendamas, ken-drama;
IT SPREADS DUDE. EVERYTHING SPREADS.
**TEAMCEST NONUS (IT’S NOT A BONUS CAUSE IT’S LIKE A CON SO I DUB IT A NO-NUS) – IT’S HARD TO KEEP ANYTHING LOWKEY WHEN YOU’RE ON THE SAME TEAM. EVERYONE KNOWS EVERYTHING. IF YOU GUYS HAVE DRAMZ, EVERYONE WILL KNOW. THE NEWBIES, THE DIRECTORS, AND EVEN ALUM WILL KNOW.**
Different Dance Teams = Different Schedules
So you’re one of the lucky ones who somehow branched out at a mixer and is dating a dancer from a different team. Congratulations to you! So your practices are Monday/Wednesday while his are Tuesday/Thursday? And it’s ‘long distance’ because he’s on a different team too? Omg this sounds like a happy ending I can not wait to hear how this goes.
Also, different teams can turn into rivalries, if your teams happen to be lowkey/highkey/middlekey rivals in the dance community. The hell weeks going into that one competition where you’re against each other might not just be hell at practice…
GET ON MAH LEVEL. When One Person Is Obviously Way, Way Better At Dancing.
Now that you’ve snagged yourself a dancer, you are clearly Keone and Mari – except for one small factor of skill level.
I know this is pretty shallow, but hypothetically speaking, if your girlfriend is a better dancer than you, your life can either go one of two ways:
you can either be inspired to become a better dancer
OR you can either feel threatened by her, and tension can be created. It’s no one’s fault; it’s not like you guys dated each other based on dance skill (or maybe you did), but the idea that one of you is better than the other is just kind of… unsettling – everyone is always a little competitive. The only solution to this is to either both be really really good or both be really really mediocre. Boom.
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**TEAMCEST BONUS – CASTING. BLOCKING. SYMPATHY. YOUR BOYFRIEND GOT BACK CORNER WHILE YOU’RE OFF THE RIGHT SHOULDER OF CENTER. WHAT DO YOU DO. WHAT DO YOU DO?!**
Fun Fact: There’s Actually a World Outside of Dance.
When you’re dancing, in competition mode, in practice mode, then you have school or a job or both… plus a relationship, you think that hanging out at practice is enough time to hang out. You see each other for hours in a parking lot, you see each other at competitions, isn’t that the same thing?
NO. WRONG. IT IS NOT THE SAME THING. As probably the most common answer as a con to dance-lationships (mostly in teamcestual situations):
“You see each other all the time, but sometimes you need to actually go out and do some date type shit cause let me tell you, that doesn’t happen.”
Just because you see each other at practices or you spend time together at competitions or performances does NOT classify as spending time together as a couple (well it does but it shouldn’t be the only time you spend together). Remember that relationships need spontaneity, they need romance, and they need some nights where you sit at home and watch Netflix together.
Two words for dance or any type of -lationship that should be remembered: DATE NIGHT.
All Good Things Must Come to an End.
Like I said earlier about the dance community being small and everyone knowing everything, I guess this is more of a con for the teamcestual folk, because, well, you’ll have to see your ex at practice. And let me let you in on a little secret:
The best way to get over your ex is actually NOT by seeing him/her the night after your broke up and then for every night for 5+ hours for the next few weeks.
In this particular article, the pros outweigh the cons, but it’s different in every situation! As Contour Hooligan once said, “The Pros are the Cons,” meaning that sometimes, finding someone who you can watch videos with all night may turn into you thinking that watching videos all night is a date when your other… doesnt. Yeah. Contour Hooligan probably meant that. Or they meant that the professionals are the con artists. I don’t really know.
Anyway, this is not to discourage you to not swipe right on Tinder to that cute guy on GRV, but this is also not to encourage you to try and spark a game of Truth or Dare at your team’s retreat and somehow rigging it so that you dare someone to make out with you.. whhuuuut. In any case, you’re young, people are attractive, and you only love once maybe #yolom, so have fun! Maybe you’ll find the love of your life! Or maybe you’ll agree with Chris Brown after finding out that some hoes, in fact, are not loyal. GOOD LUCK.
Are there any additional pros and cons you can think of for dating a dancer? Let us know by leaving a comment below!
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